Cafe apologises for 'vile' sign featuring 'appalling' joke about disabled woman

Cafe apologises for ‘vile’ sign featuring ‘appalling’ joke about disabled woman

A cafe has been forced to apologise after a sign featuring an inappropriate and ‘vile’ joke caused outrage among customers. Seddon Deadly Sins in Melbourne, Australia, regularly has jokes and puns written on a chalk board near the front door, but the most recent offering didn’t go down well. The handwritten sign read: “My girlfriend broke up with me, so I stole her wheelchair. “Guess who came crawling back.” Photos of the sign were shared on social media and attracted lots of negative comments. However others have defended the joke and are disappointed the cafe decided to apologise for it. One angry customer wrote: “Any café that thinks jokes about abuse and violence and against disabled people is NOT a community café worth supporting.” Another added: “Your humour can be utterly wrong without demeaning people. Going for the cheap shot is just that – Cheap. And nasty.” Feminist and campaigner Clementine Ford shared the post on her Facebook page. She wrote: “It’s absolutely appalling and totally ignorant. Women with disabilities are exponentially more exposed to abuse and subject to it by their partners. “This is not a silly pun. This is explicitly a joke about domestic violence.” But others defended the sign, saying it was clearly just a joke. One write: “Your blackboard made me laugh. It also treated people the same way as everyone else which is what we’re always hearing about – ‘They just want to be treated to same way as everyone else…’. Isn’t that how it goes? “The fact that you felt you needed to apologise to a bunch of humourless bleeding hearts is sad, so I’m posting your photo here – and I won’t be apologising to anyone! “P.S. The only thing wrong with your sign was the lack of a ‘question mark’ at the end of the last sentence.” The owner originally defended the joke but after a series of message took it down and issued an apology. Posting on Facebook, he wrote: “Today I made the mistake of making light of something that I had not considered was a brutal reality for some people. “Colleen Hartland shared a report with me that highlighted domestic violence against people with disabilities. I’m ashamed that it took this for me to learn about this abuse. “I apologise for my ignorance and any offence that it has caused. Regardless of the original intent, I should have known better.” But many people are disappointed he felt the need to apologise for the joke. One woman wrote: “I’ve just had the sign brought to my attention – I’m a wheelchair user and I found it hilarious. If I couldn’t laugh at my disability (spinal cord injury) then I would spend the rest of my life crying.” Another added: “As someone who has a disability, I just want to say anyone offended by this needs to get a life. I have crutches and people always joke about stealing them. “The ability to make jokes about it just shows people are comfortable with people who are different, which is all anyone with a disability actually wants, and something you are trying to take away by making disabilities such a sensitive topic that people are afraid of confronting them. “If you are not disabled and you find this offensive, maybe you need to think about why disabilities make you so uncomfortable that you cant see humour in them and work on that. Also, if you are so bored, that you need to get offended on behalf of other people, might i suggest getting a hobby. I can make some recommendations if you’d like.”
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American doyen of golf writing, Dan Jenkins, passes away at 89

The celebrated American sports writer, Dan Jenkins, has passed away at the age of 89. Raised in the same Texas airts of Forth Worth which spawned his golfing heroes, Ben Hogan and Byron Nelson, Jenkins would go on to become a golf scribbling colossus and peppered his expertly crafted pieces with humour and withering barbs. Jenkins started his writing career with the Forth Worth Press before finding fame with that US powerhouse of publishing, Sports Illustrated. He covered his first major, the US Open, in 1951 when Hogan did battle with a hellishly brutal Oakland Hills and conquered. Jenkins didn’t miss many showpiece occasions after that during a long and fulfilling career and in 2012 was inducted into the world golf hall of fame. During the 2015 Masters at Augusta, Herald Sport’s golf writer, Nick Rodger, caught up with this decorated doyen of the Royal & Ancient game for a brief blether … He’s not quite from the days of quill and parchment but Dan Jenkins has been committing his influential, inspiring golfing musings to print for a heck of a long time. The golf writing game has changed a bit since this enduring and engaging doyen first began scribbling away but the decorated 85-year-old Texan has moved with the times. From the typewriter to Twitter, Jenkins has evolved from the old and has embraced the new and he continues to pen chapters in this long, rewarding sporting life. “I’ve never pondered retirement,” says Jenkins, who began his creative career with his local paper and moved on to that powerhouse of publishing, Sports Illustrated, before settling in at Golf Digest. “When you retire, you die.” The media centre on the final day of the Masters is a thundering theatre of clatterings as the fevered masses thrash away at the laptop keys like Little Richard delivering one of his boisterous, piano-pounding epistles. Outside, in a tranquil little corner, Jenkins, his face shaded under a bunnet and his fingers gently caressing a thin cigarette, absorbs, ponders and reflects on yet another week at Augusta National. This year has been his 65th in a row. “I only missed the first 14,” he adds with a cheery chuckle and a glint in those wise eyes that have covered over 220 major championships down the years. “People kept paying me to come and I kept on coming. I would absorb it all and watch it all and then when deadline came I always felt like it was my turn on stage.” A native of that same Forth Worth town as the great Byron Nelson and Ben Hogan, Jenkins, like those fellow Texans, rose to greatness in another golfing field. His relationship with Hogan was deep and one borne out of admiration and mutual respect. “That’s why Hogan liked me, I knew what golf was about,” added Jenkins, who is part of a small decorated posse of media men who have been inducted into golf’s world hall of fame. “We played together 30 or 40 times when we were home. Hogan was my idol and my friend and he got me covering majors. He was so gracious and he had a closet sense of humour which he didn’t show to anybody. I couldn’t say anything bad about him and I couldn’t write anything bad about him. I tried not to write anything bad about anybody until Tiger.” Ah yes, Tiger Woods. When Jenkins wrote a parody article about the Tiger last year – or “invented fiction” as the former world No 1 oddly called it – the piece went down like a sack of spanners in the Woods camp. Jenkins remains defiant. “With the exception of Tiger, all the great champions have been the best players for us,” he said. “Gracious interviews, great winners, great losers. Palmer, Nicklaus, Snead, Hogan; they made my job easier. I like guys who make my job easier. You know, Tiger was fun when he was beating the hell out of everybody in his first five or six years. But he smiled for TV, never for us and never told us anything. I tried to get close but decided I’m too old to try any more. I used to stupidly think that he needed us as much as we needed him. That wasn’t so.” Honest, insightful, humorous, scathing and possessing the wisdom that comes from the passing years, Jenkins has plenty of opinions and thoughts as golf has changed and developed through the ages. “There’s too much money,” he stated. “That’s why my interest in regular tour events has diminished. Players used to have to win to make money, now you can finish 20th and make millions a year. You have to compete and try to win, rather than compete to try and finish 15th. That’s a sadness for me. As Lee Trevino said ‘you never know what’s in someone’s heart’. Do they just want to get rich and buy boats and cars or do they want to play against the history book? Jack (Nicklaus) always played against the history book. It’s the toughest thing to beat. Guys now come down the stretch and get close and think ‘if fifth place is going to pay $600,000 then that’s not bad’. They have to think they want to win. They claim they want to win but they don’t.” The 79th Masters was drawing to a close and Jenkins had chalked another one off. “Why do I keep doing it?,” he ponders. “It keeps changing. The cast keeps changing, we have new heroes, there is always a new wave coming. That’s what makes it great.” Readers’ comments: You are personally liable for the content of any comments you upload to this website, so please act responsibly. We do not pre-moderate or monitor readers’ comments appearing on our websites, but we do post-moderate in response to complaints we receive or otherwise when a potential problem comes to our attention. You can make a complaint by using the ‘report this post’ link . We may then apply our discretion under the user terms to amend or delete comments. Post moderation is undertaken full-time 9am-6pm on weekdays, and on a part-time basis outwith those hours. 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